It's nearly impossible to be in a good mood all the time. No question about it. People who are don't get to move about without supervision.But it IS possible to take just about anything that couldhappen to you and USE it to feel good... happy, empowered,strong.A woman I know used to look at the fact that her now ex-spouse did everything possible to sabotage her finishingcollege, and felt upset whenever she thought about it. Itseemed to her that she would have been much farther alongin her career, she'd probably live in a much nicer home,etc. if she had been able to finish college right afterhigh school.This was a constant source of despair. She felt that ifshe had not married him, her life would be so much bettertoday.I told her that I didn't believe in that; that I feel thatthere is a reason for everything... even though it oftendoesn't seem that way.If you examine your own life, I think you'll see thatthose things that get you down often are, in truth, thesource of some of your greatest joys and may have set thedirection at some of the most important crossroads of yourlife.In her case, as a result of her being married, she hadmoved to a different city, where she got a great job andflourished in it. She made a lot of great friends whom sheloves deeply. She has a daughter that she wouldn't tradefor the world. Plus, the move to the new city made itpossible for her to ultimately meet and marry the man shecalls her soul mate.So, none of the great parts of her life would exist if itwasn't for her first marriage.Although it wasn't the wisest thing to do at the time, itwas now ridiculous to beat herself up for succumbing to thepressure her ex-husband applied all those years ago. Ihelped her to realize that it's BECAUSE of her decision tomarry at a young age and not finish college immediatelythat gave her all the things that she enjoys most about herlife.She ultimately got her degree and joined the ranks of CPA,just as she would have if she stayed in college to beginwith.If she had done it differently, nothing that she holds sodear today would be in her life. Kind of like the movie,"It's A Wonderful Life," huh?After I pointed that out, she realized that problems arenot problems at all.Problems, as we call them, are situations that eitherteach us to go forward more intelligently, or they're deadends. But they can only be dead ends if we decide they'llbe. If we hold onto our old decisions, "bad" breaks, andsituations that didn't work out for us in the short run,using them to remind us that we're just not meant to behappy, that we're not good enough, that we'll never getanother chance......then that's exactly what our life's story will be.Even when things are great, it's still possible to lookback with regret, isn't it? How does it make you feel whenyou do that?Like crap?Then you just need perspective.Look at all those situations that appear to have beentragedies. See what they meant to you in terms of peopleyou met as a result. Career moves that worked out well. How about family, health, location, attitude, schooling andother learning? What about skills you now have that youmay not have acquired if your "problem" never happened?Do this for every "problem" you ever had that you think oreven "know" stopped you or limited your life in some way.I think... no, I know that you'll find otherwise. There are no such things as problems.Shakespeare said, "Nothing is either good or bad, butthinking makes it so." You see, there are certainindisputable principles of life, and this is one of them. Just because you've managed to live for 20, 40 or even 80years and this never occurred to you doesn't mean it's nottrue.There is nothing more true. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing.Once you start to instantly "feel" deep inside you thatthis thing that just happened to you is actually your nextgift, your next chance to grow, to gain peace of mind, tofinally understand that there IS such a thing as a problem-free life......that's when you'll stop living with wild mood swings. That is when you'll realize that you can reduce and evenget off your happy pills because your mental focus isn't onproblems any more. That's when you'll start doing thingsthat used to make you nervous and scared and you won't bescared ay more. When you accept the unwanted hurdles that pop up daily assimply a part of your path and move over them like someonewho's on the way somewhere, then every day will go a lotsmoother and happier.So do this...Write down some rotten stuff that's happened to you in thelast year or so. Then look for the silver lining in eachone. Write down the good that came out of each one. Ifyou can't, then you're not looking with intention offinding it... because it IS there. Write them down and carry the list with you. Then, thenext time you find yourself in an irritated mood, pull outyour list and see what all your hurdles have actually donefor you.I bet you'll smile.And isn't that better than fuming? You'd better say yes!
Today's Empowering Beliefs To
Help Control Your Thoughts
If you want to change your life fast, even though it mightseem like it's slow, then take the statements below, putthem on index cards and read them 3 times/day. Morning,noon and just before you close your eyes at night.They'll seep into your consciousness. And since you'll besaying them so often, you'll soon begin to believe them.That's how most beliefs start. Spaced repetition of thought.Your attitudes will then positively change your emotions,and you'll be compelled to do more... And you'll love it.If you own Think Right Now for Windows, - http://www.thinkrightnow.com/trnwindows.htm just paste them into the appropriate file or make a new one -AND read them three times per day. Think Right Now For Windows will help put this re-scripting in overdrive.
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